Life Lesson from the Crab

Being born on June 22 made me a “Cancer the Crab”. (No, I am not going New Age, and never read my horoscope.) I never felt good saying “I am a Cancer” when on those rare occasions someone asked me “What’s your sign?” But it is now a bit ironic. Why couldn’t I have been born under the sign of the eagle, or a bulldog; or better yet, a catfish or oriole?

Having dealt with the knowledge I have cancer for a few months, a few things are beginning to sink in.

1. You learn you have cancer, but cancer does not have you (unless you let it). Self pity isn’t worth the effort.
2. You learn getting cancer is not a death sentence; it is a declaration of war! I am a survivor, not a victim.
3. You learn some folks are very uncomfortable and withdraw when they discover you have cancer…and that’s OK.
4. You learn some folks (often the most unexpected ones) draw closer, and perform amazing acts of grace and kindness.
5. You learn a cancer diagnosis allows you to reconnect with family and relatives, childhood friends, classmates, and colleagues from the past in a way that might otherwise have never happened.
6. You learn not to sweat the small stuff…even when your favorite football team starts the season with a loss.
7. You learn to celebrate the milestones; even Flag Day, and the little reminders that every day is a precious gift from God.
8. You learn it’s OK to cry; but even better to laugh. And you discover that there are some funny things about cancer; as serious as it is. (Example: Now that I am on hormone therapy, I will finally get to sing in the soprano section of the choir!)
9. You learn that long range plans are necessary; but short term plans are essential. Get on with doing those things you were saving up for retirement.

The calendar has finally rolled over to September, and in a few days, with God’s grace, I will fight and win an important battle in this war. With the help of so many people, especially Anita, I am ready!

And you know I cannot stop short with nine lessons. So here is the most important of all:

10. You learn that you ARE NOT cancer; and that “your sign” is an Empty Tomb, where Jesus so loved you, more than your closest friend or brother, and won the ultimate victory over sin, sickness, suffering and even death.